HOW DO YOU TAKE CRITICISM?
Criticism is a part of life. Everyone wants to share their opinion, and everyone has an experience pass on. When someone makes comments to you that are more or less agreeable to hear about your work or your style, do you immediately put yourself on the defensive? If so, I challenge you to stop your first impulse and really listen to what is being said to you. Any criticism, even if it is harsh, can reveal a lot of things both about yourself and the person speaking to you.
What criticism say
Obviously, no one wants to be found at fault, to disappoint or to feel judged or incompetent. But behind the criticism, even if it is poorly presented, is often hidden a truth that can allow you to improve yourself or to better understand the person who made it.
It is true that there are some criticisms that are gratuitous and hurtful, but it these cases, if you go beyond the emotion that it provokes you’ll see that they are awkwardly trying to hide their own frustration or dissatisfaction. Fortunately, in most cases, people criticize because they want to help you by sharing their point of view or their way of doing things. It is then up to you to decide whether to accept or reject them.
Here are three tips to constructively deal with criticism:
A negative criticism (even if it is constructive) is often taken as a personal attack. To arrive at the facts and what can be learned, pride must be taken out of the equation.
2. Put things in perspective
No one is perfect.
Every day gives you the opportunity to improve. As the proverb says “the strongest are not those that never fall, but those who always get up.” Listen, learn and bounce back.
Most people wish you well
Through criticism we often try to pass on a lesson or an experience. Learning from experiences of others can help you avoid many problems.
We are not always objective.
It requires a conscious effort to observe objectively. Criticism is an opportunity to question your habits and beliefs, don’t pass it up.
You have the right to be different.
Don’t give anyone the right to dictate who you should be and how you should act. At the bottom line, you have the last word.
3. Act appropriately
If you decide to stick to your position, assert yourself without judgment and without drama. Emotions will only worsen the situation. Otherwise, humbly accept the suggestions being made to you. If however, you feel confused or misunderstood by the person criticizing you, ask them to clarify their thoughts, which can help avoid misunderstandings.
We are often so demanding of ourselves that sometimes we see criticism as a public attack on our weaknesses. What do you say to someone who is afraid of criticism to help them? Share your opinion below in the comment section.
FOR THOSE WITH THE "MY ATTITUDE" PLANNER, this week meet with someone who you trust and ask them to suggest one or two aspects of your life that you could improve. Get used to accepting criticism as an opportunity to change for the better.